A Slut's Guide To Happiness Podcast - Episode 14: Entering the Dating World as a Baby Queer - with Orion Pax
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Dating in the straight world often comes with a lot of gendered assumptions about who takes initiative, in what ways, and what sexual interactions look like. Unlearning these assumptions can be tough when beginning to pursue dates or relationships with queer folks. Although Orion has had anonymous gay sex for two decades, he is just beginning to explore dating queer people in the light of day. In this episode, Orion interviews Vanessa, asking questions for advice on effective, kind and respectful ways to approach queer dating. Vanessa is pansexual and has dated people of all genders, including queer and trans folks since she was 14. She caveats her perspective as limited to the life experience of a cisgender woman, including the suggestion that all dating interactions may be best approached from a beginner's mindset, learning about each individual and their preferences.
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Hey, welcome back to a slut's guide to happiness, where your body is perfectly imperfect and
it's safe to be as sexual, kinky, queer, or slutty as you want.
I'm your host, Vanessa Cliff.
Today I'm talking with Orion Pax, who you've met through previous episodes.
He's Cliff Media's chief video officer and a great wealth of creative smutty ideas.
Aw, thank you.
And he's also been going through a life transition, coming out of the closet after many decades
of anonymous gay sex and now openly dating people of all genders.
He asked me if he could ask some questions for advice.
And I thought this is such a common experience, this could be a great conversation to share
with you all.
So of course, I have to first share with you what I accidentally put on for this podcast.
We were just going to chill and have this conversation, so I just grabbed something
out of the closet.
And of course, it's the coincidentally the most lesbian stereotype shirt I own.
So it's this, what would you call this?
A plaid lumberjack shirt going out over here.
Buffalo plaid.
Yep, yep.
Flannel.
I'm ready to go pick up some girls from the lesbian bar.
All right.
I have that same shirt though.
Yeah?
I do.
Yeah, well, okay.
We could tie a knot.
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